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My first love & my first heartbreak

Stephany C

04 Aug, 2012 09:39 AM

Today marks exactly 1 week since my boyfriend and I broke up. And it has been the hardest and most painful week of my life.

My now ex boyfriend and I met 6 months ago, he came up to me and my friends and handed me a sticky note with his name and number on it and left immediately. A couple hours into the night, I finally texted him. At first I was very resistant in meeting him in person I just figured he was a player and what not but for some weird reason, something inside me just made me agree to give him a chance. So the following weekend I met him up at a popular hookah bar, we hugged, sat down,and talked. I remember we just clicked instantly! We had so much in common that it really surprised the both of us. After talking for a while he invited me to go to a nearby 24 hour cafe, so we went there and honestly just sat there and talked talked talked! At the end of the night, we both sent each other texts saying how much we enjoyed the night and how we've never had an instant connection like that before.

Our first date was a week after that and we went to watch Project X. After the movie ended, we took a nice stroll outside the theater and had our first kiss :) And a couple of days after that, he asked me to be his girlfriend at a beautiful viewpoint in Portland, Oregon. Of course I said yes:) He gave me a build a bear and I gave him a friendship bracelet that I had made especially for him :)

Since then we just became closer and closer, we were just perfect for each other. He had about 7 previous girlfriends before me but said they all treated him horribly and that they never lasted for more than 2 or so months. For me, he was my FIRST boyfriend so obviously I was somewhat concerned about the possibility of getting hurt, but I trusted him. By the way, we are both 18.

So everything was honestly just going great! Up until about 2 months ago.... one day out of the blue he just ignored me. Didn't text or call, nothing! I had to contact some of his close friends to find out that he wanted a "break" it was so hurtful! I wasn't even mad about the fact that he wanted or needed a break, I was mad and upset with the fact that he didn't have the balls to be real with me and tell me in person how he was feeling. But let me tell you, that one week break was emotionally draining for me. Once that break was over, I found out a couple days later that during the break, he took a girl out to go eat. And again, what hurt the most was that he kept it a secret! It was so frustrating to find information about your boyfriend from OTHER people! I just felt like he just had so many secrets. Anyways I never really got over it but I said I did because I didn't want to be that girl who dragged things on.

Ever since that incident happened, things has been really rocky, on and off... and that went on til mid of July because his best friend had rented a beach house for a couple of days as a late birthday celebration. We went only for one night since he had work the next evening. But the time we spent there was just amazing! It felt 100% good. The other people there even gave the single bedroom for us since they thought we deserved it. It was like heaven, it felt right. We cuddled together, we walked on the beach together, and we cooked together it was perfect.

So then once we left the beach, he dropped me off at home, gave me a kiss, and said good bye. And since then, it went back to being weird.... that Friday (last Friday) was the day we had seen each other since the beach trip. And right when we saw each other I just felt something was wrong....

So we went to his car and talked.... basically to sum everything up. He said that I was perfect, beautiful, and the best girlfriend he ever had BUUUUUT that he didn't want to be tied down nor be in a committed relationship..... I was just speechless. My mind was just in shock. And when I asked him how long he had felt this way, he said for about a month now! I gave him a hug, walked out of the car, and started crying. A couple hours later he sent me text saying he was sorry and that he feels like shit, I didn't respond. Then he texted my best friend telling her to tell me that he still loves me and that he feels like crap.....

SINCE THEN, I have been finding out so much stuff from different people and its just made me numb inside. He was telling people we broke up 2 months ago, he's flirting with other girls, and now I'm just finding out that he had been taking girls out on dates while we were still together. I have no idea what true or not true but all I know is that I haven't stopped crying since that day.

My heart is broken, it feels like someone tore it out and stomped on it a million times. The guy that I met 6 months ago IS NOT the guy I know now.... he was my first love, I gave him my whole heart, trusted him with my life, and loved him unconditionally. I thought he was my soul mate and I know that probably sounds really stupid to say since I am only 18 and he was my first boyfriend but what I felt was something that was SO strong and un explainable. I was the type of girlfriend that always did cute little things for him whether it be surprising him at work or baking him personalized treats. I honestly just don't know what I did to deserve this... I have no closure. He said one thing but his actions are saying another.....

The sad thing about all of this is that not matter how much he has hurt me and has put me through.... I still love him. I can't stop thinking about him. It hurts to know that when I'm crying he's laughing, when I'm sad he's happy, when I'm at home miserable, he's out and a about having a good time. I felt like he gave me false hope of an actual future together.... everything just sucks but what can I do? Nothing. I mean the saying "if its easy for them to move on then they never really loved you" is true right? I can't fight for us if he doesn't want to be with me... nothing makes sense, I am so confused, so hurt. All I want is the truth, all I want is answers.... but I guess that will never happen....

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shimaa atif says:
18 Dec, 2012 03:42 PM

its a really saaaaaaaaaaad story and i think i feel the way yoooou do

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Anand kumar says:
18 Dec, 2012 05:04 PM

soo sad felling...

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trinity says:
20 Dec, 2012 03:05 AM

Look girl I know it's hard but I'm kinda goin thru the same except he wasn't flirting with any one else I'm only 16 and um well I love him with all my heart be strong and just because he ain't around don't mean you gotta stop living yo life act like you don't give a Shit he'll cone around trust me (:

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redz. . says:
20 Dec, 2012 06:41 AM

Gurl all i can say is move on. . everything happen for a reason. . just learned from that experience
he is not the only guy in this world. . you will find much better for him. .

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Arlene says:
21 Dec, 2012 03:55 AM

I totally feel the same way. But he loves my friend. N I'm like over here reading sad stories while he's on Facebook flirting with girls .-. I still love him but he loves her . He knows I love him but doesn't think he'll love me again ._.

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Stephany C says:
26 Dec, 2012 04:08 AM

Thanks guys for all you comments! This story happened 5 months ago or so and now re reading it has been so therapeutic. I've come a long ways. The pain is still there but its in my past. I've learned to let go and move on. But just know your first love will ALWAYS be your first love no matter what.

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Ashley says:
30 Dec, 2012 07:50 AM

Man! Men really suck:) I'm 14 and I know that! Guys love you than don't want you then love you. It's sick and I feel for ya!

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sasha says:
30 Dec, 2012 11:24 PM

get him off your mind! hes a loser. you'll find a boy who gives you the world. i'm in a relationship 2 years now n i'm just 15. you'll find him trust me:)

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Joe says:
01 Jan, 2013 02:14 AM

Time heals,same situation here,but too blinded found out when we are dating for 3 years.what a waste:(girls can hurt more than guys

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Navita creed says:
12 Jan, 2013 07:08 PM

omg u n me story is actually the same life sucks n so do life everybody sucks for me for a week or month i'm his gf n then a next week or month i'm his frendz it annoys me just do like me don't u care a damn about him

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Stephany C says:
13 Jan, 2013 01:08 AM

I'm so glad that a lot of you can relate to my story and experience :)

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Paige says:
30 Jan, 2013 05:25 AM

This is the 6 time do you want to have braken up with me and I'm so sad because he broke up with me 6 * already and this was last week because now I find another boy that i met at Skate city in his name is Connor and he is way nice so hot and cute nah I just love him so much more than I love that stupid mmm mmm it just makes me so mad to think about him

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paige michael tygart sister says:
30 Jan, 2013 05:39 AM

Hi i am 11 and i just got out if a relationship with a
boy named Javontay and i loved him so much but now
he became a fag and a dooshbag but now i have a better
boy in my life named Connor and he is 11 to and i met him
at skate city 2 weeks ago and i love him so much more than i loved Javontay
than i loved Javontay

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jean says:
01 Feb, 2013 03:09 AM

thank u... that u share ur ..feelings .. ,,. im so glad .. ,,..of u .. move on // girl .. he is not man in this entire world .. u can find another man .. much better ,, of him ..

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mile's says:
01 Feb, 2013 04:54 PM

He doesn't deserve a kind hearted person like you. Life will get better I assure day you won't even remember this jerk.

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Stephany C says:
01 Feb, 2013 08:22 PM

Thank you everyone, seeing all these comments really makes me happy! And as for an update... its been 6 months since this happened and just recently he asked to get back together, go figure right?

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Miles says:
19 Feb, 2013 09:05 PM

What did you say, if you don't mind me asking.

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Stephany C says:
29 Apr, 2013 10:40 PM

Right when I was finally decided to give it another go, he said that he thinks its just better that we're friends.... a month and a half after that, he got a new girlfriend... I wish I never even considered getting back together with him for even a second, it was a waste of time and cost me even more heartache.

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Jay says:
01 May, 2013 11:09 PM

I am SO proud of you. I know how hard it is. I know that pain, I know that broken feeling. As time goes on it will get easier and easier. No matter how hard it is, or the memories you think about, just remember that you don't need anyone that doesn't need you. End of story. Don't let anyone break that fuckin smile. Sometimes you just gotta pick your shit up and keep going. One day you will thank yourself. Keep smiling kiddo

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Stephany C says:
06 May, 2013 07:21 AM

Thank you SO much! Reading that gave me so much hope and motivation to move one and stay strong!

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