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Don't know the reason why we broke Up

Vaio Iraq

25 Oct, 2011 01:52 AM

I'm a Muslim lady and 32 years old.
I will not talk about the traditions that we have as Muslim and as Iraqi cause this is love. Love is a unique language everywhere. It is the same feeling, same pain. No real love without pain...

Here how my story begins:
In 2005 there was an exhibition in General Park for companies all over the country. I was there as an observer and welcomed guests. There were too crowds and hardly could find a place to sit and have rest. We were 4 ladies standing near to a company space in the exhibition. There were two guys standing in the company space and offered us to sit and have rest. We entered the space and thanked guys. We talked and one of the guys who were so cute and has fetching eyes observing me secretly and I was aware but tried to control myself.

Anyhow we exchanged emails and after a week I received an email from him. It was a strange feeling. We continued like that and he suggested meeting or giving me a book but I couldn't accept. Once he sent me an email talking about politician and I advised him to not get involved in politics cause it affects your future (daughter) and family. He was shocked and asked "how do you know that I have a family?" Here where I was really shocked. I never knew that he has family but was talking about Ifs. I was really disappointed. To be fair, he was only trying to be friends but what I was feeling was more than friendship. I was silent for a while and sad. Tried to cut the connections as it is not healthy and easy here (per traditions) to be such a close friend with married ones.

Any how we were apart till 2007 and one day suddenly i saw him online and we began chatting. we talked about what happened frankly and this time we had stronger feeling toward as. One day when we're chatting he wanted to confess to me that he loves me and I begged him to stop and not to say it, but we couldn't stop that it was our fate. I told him that "your love is too hard to be accepted and too sweet to be denied".

We fall deeply in love. A love, that I cannot forget it till the last day of my life. It was happiest and greatest love I have been in ever. He still lives in my mind and heart.

I joined MBA and involved him with me too(it is a very funny story that makes me laugh till now). We were MBA students for 2 years in the same group and had many case studies together without anyone knowing about this relation. Day after day he was feeling so jealous and each time was accusing me of attracting people's attention. God knows how this was far from reality and it never came to my mind to act like that. Finally we agreed to marry (per our religion men can marry more than one at the same time). Here is the sadness begin. I could obviously observe the changes of him and could notice the fears and hesitations and regrets in his eyes and left him to behave as he want couldn't defend me enough as I was worried about him. I realized that how much he will get trouble if we marry since he had children and wife. I was a real love in his life and he has willing to live with me not his wife (as he had a sad story regarding his marriage and how he was obliged to marry his wife unbelievable story!)

One day we had a group project and discussing our project but he was not there. He called me several times and I was not aware cause we were in group discussing our projects. As soon as I noticed his missed calls, I called him back and he was too angry. He said many sad things and accused me of neglecting him and care about other people more than him which was absolutely wrong. I could say nothing just explained myself being in discussions and said I have only one thing to tell u which was "I love you".

Day after day he was worse and more jealous, accusing me that I'm changed and talking to others which was absolutely not true and God knows how much I was faithful to him . One day in 2010, he suggested us to meet in his office. I went there and he asked me to give him my mobile. He checked my mobile and couldn't find anything to accuse me of then he asked for the password of my personal email. Though I was disappointed and it broke my heart to the degree at that time I didn't feel any more love toward him.

He explored my emails and unexpectedly found an old email by an old friend who sent me some rude jokes and he was so upset and told me that I have never sent such kind of jokes to my friends (girls). The real story is that the guy who sent me that email was a rude person and previously I called him and angrily I asked him not to send me such kind of messages but when I told this to my boyfriend and explained that how much this guy is rude, He didn't believe me. Actually I felt that he believes me but want to find any reason to undo this marriage and end our relations. I could say nothing and realized that it is useless. Left him angrily and didn't allow him to check my emails anymore.

That is how my love ended. Till now I carry a special feeling toward him and cannot forget him. When thinking about this I always asking myself, why all these happened to me?? Why he was not frank and tells that we cannot marry? He knows my personality and knew very well that I think wisely and never asked him to marry me why he behaved like that?

Love to hear your comments. Please.

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Empty void says:
15 May, 2012 02:51 AM

I'm sorry for you I hope you get stronger and have reason to go on

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Amna says:
16 May, 2012 02:33 AM

Everything's not lost , Look around You may find better good luck.

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Ravi Soni says:
17 May, 2012 05:41 AM

do anything in your life but dont blaim on ur love, bcs when it break we cant spread our self from our partner

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Vio Iraq says:
17 May, 2012 07:00 AM

thanks Empty Void and Amna for your comments. of course life is going on and god is hiding better for us.

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Nadia says:
18 May, 2012 10:56 AM

may god bless you..when a door closes, another one is open for you filled with happiness and you will get in that door one day with a massive smile on your beautiful face, actually ma story is sadder than yours, dont feel too bad about it,Allah is great!

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Vaio Iraq says:
18 May, 2012 10:12 PM

Thanks Nadia I strongly beleive in god and his generousity. I love to hear your story too... but whatever happened to you just forget it and never look back, it was god's will and he is more aware than us...

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lipsa says:
21 May, 2012 06:54 AM

U must move on in ur lyf..!! Der must b sum1 beter nd perfect..waitng for u.! Hv faitj in Allah..!!:)

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Navneet(amit] says:
21 May, 2012 09:32 AM

As per Believing on ur story, a person must be very lucky 2 ve a frnd lyk u,bt u were more den dat. Mens grl frnd. It was his fate nd ur gud luck dat he left u,bcoz continuing vid him should ve been very miserable for u ,dat u 2 know.. Stay hapy nd cheers:). Dats wat i cn say u.. Hoping n waitin for ur rply

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Roxana says:
28 May, 2012 11:58 AM

He was rude. I lived the same story but the man wasn t married! My conclusion, no love from him for you, just "you were a very special woman" he was attracted by your world!

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Vaio says:
29 May, 2012 11:26 AM

thanks dears lipsa, Naneet and Roxana for your precious words. things become easier when hearing your amazing words. Actually I agree with you Roxnana.. he was very attracted to my world and what i do in my life which is a little bit different ....

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liz maya says:
16 Jul, 2012 09:58 AM

i guess it was easier for you to blame you for something than to just tell you the truth. But you know what, you deserve better... it is going to take long, but trust me, you'll be okay. i have been through a similar situation before, i never thought i would ever be okay but here i am, you'll be okay too...and i want you to know that you are a great person!

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liz maya says:
16 Jul, 2012 09:59 AM

it was easier for him to blame you for something....

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Sarah says:
05 Aug, 2012 01:47 AM

Hi! Im an iranian muslim and im happy to find a person like u... That was a sad experience 4u but u shouldnt accept to be his second wife. And now, u did well to leaving him & not to stay with him. Forget about that crazy man!! How could he think so about u?? Forget the past and live ur life and Good luck... Now is 1year after u write the story,but if u check the comments yet,i would be happy to see u reply to mine.

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Vio says:
05 Aug, 2012 09:44 AM

Thx dear liz u r great believe me I could tell this from hus eyes but didn't want to go to a useless discussions.

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vio says:
05 Aug, 2012 09:49 AM

Dear Sara, it is such a pleasure to find you here. Thx for ur nice words u are great. It is nice to hear from someone from Iran. By the way I grew up in Iran and came back home after finished my primary school. That is why I love Iranian people.

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Sarah says:
05 Aug, 2012 08:52 PM

Thats great! ;-)

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liz maya says:
07 Aug, 2012 05:08 AM

hey Vio, i'm glad you replied. and if you ever want to talk, just email me, lizchrstn154@gmail.com... i hope you are doing much better now.

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jetina says:
30 Aug, 2012 09:46 PM

My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but i decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then i went online there i saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose email is ogbologbotemple@gmail.com so i had to contact him and in just 4days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to.I cant thank the spell caster enough what what he did for me, i am so grateful. I even spoke to the spell caster over the phone, to confirm his existence. His email again is: ogbologbotemple@gmail.com

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Yasir khan says:
16 Oct, 2012 06:25 PM

wow iT'S adorable,such a incrideble love story!my heartbeating was sooo fast when i was read it.I've no words for telling you,its a its so much hearttouching,whoa i've one quote
''True love doesn't need any proof
they eyes told what heart felt''
tha't why i like lover nd love

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Vio Iraq says:
21 Oct, 2012 07:17 AM

Thx Yasir for your comment. ya it is love that makes us grow and became mature. it opens our eyes and feeds our soul...

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