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Is it TRUE love?

Tara Wicker

07 Oct, 2010 09:27 AM

I fell in love with this guy that I've had my eye on since 8th grade. As always, I'm the older one in the relationship. We've known each other, but never really thought we'd be together. We started talking through text, because my friend had his phone & called me from it & i ended up losing service & texted that number asking who it was. I couldn't believe it when i found out it was him. i was so happy (: we started dating May 30, 2010. I snuck out of my house a couple of times just to be with him, snuck him in a couple of times, because we were so in love! My family doesn't approve of interracial relationships, I'm white & he's black/white. He makes me so happy, but just recently things have been changing & i don't know what to do! He's so busy with football , church , and studying! But just lately, he hasn't been acting the same. I'm carrying his child & on top of that we're engaged. I just wish, he'd try and see how it is on my end. But today, we walked by each other & he didn't even try to talk to me, he just kept walking! It felt like i had lost my best friend all over again. He finally met up with me after 2nd block & he really didn't have anything to say, everyone says that i need to threaten him by saying that ima leave, but everyone knows I'm not going anywhere . Can someone / anyone , help me outt ! He don't even act the same.

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meme says:
11 Oct, 2010 01:48 PM

aww..my advice=find out why he is acting different..what is changing him..that is my advice..i wish u GOOD LUCK!!!!

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short_lito_girl says:
11 Oct, 2010 03:58 PM

I've been through the same thing. Only my ex was long distance. We got to know each other from one of my friends. So we text text and text. One month is over 3'000 texts jus between me and him. I did the same thing as you did. When he came to visit, he came at night and called me. By then, we were almost a year in the relationship. He was going to leave home the next day and i wanted to see him so badly. so i snuck out with him...my worst mistake every. The day before he left, i snuck out with him the 2nd time...my 2nd worst mistake. My parents caught us so he proposed to me right in front of my parents when I force him to come to my house. It was about 3 AM. We were gonna get marry. the happiest thing in my life. When he left back home, I never saw him again. I heard from his ex he cheated on me. I didn't believe it. Until I heard the words from his lips that he never loved me. He didn't admit he knew me...my heart shredded. Do you know, while I'm writing this, I'm crying. Because I still love that bastard. He's my first...the worst thing ever in my life was hearing his say "I don't know you. I never knew you." So I broke up with him. He manipulated me. Used me. Hurted me. Used my love against me. From your story, I'm sure he dont' love you anymore. I had that feeling too when my ex and i was 6 months in the relationship. I felt as if we're not close anymore. The way he talk was different. The way he laugh on the phone was different. It seems as if my voice sounded annoying to him. He ignore my calls. He ignore my texts. His nephew told me, after my ex and i broke up, that my ex have another girl. It seems as if my ex never loved me...I tell you this, I committed suicide after hearing all that...I overdose and nearly ruin my liver. But I survived though...thinking back always make me feel pain and cry, but it's a lesson. Take the guy you love right now as a lesson...I still feel lonely sometimes when i see couples laughing together...but think about it this way, that one guy for you will show up. Maybe he's hiding right now, but he will show up one day. Leave the guy you love right now...i know it's not easy as been said, but it's a step for you. It was hard for me to break up with my ex...my first love too. It took a lot of courage. I cried every nite when I was with him...Now after I broke up and all that big serious problems i did, i rarely cry during bedtime...you deserve someone to treat you better. find a better guy. you don't deserve him. trust me...you deserve someone better. someone who treats you like treasure and values you. you don't deserve someone that makes you feel helpless, ignores you, and have issues of their own. The way my doctor taught me, she said that I'm not the one with issues. That My ex is the one with issues. He's the one who proposed and never showed up. He's having problem of his own that he can't handle. One day someone will treat him like trash. What goes around comes around. Your guy right there is the one with issues. let him go, don't clang on to him. I clang on to mine for too long and hurt myself 10 times more. I could have broken up with him when he never showed up the first time in december to see me. He came to my town, but never came to see me. He cheated on me right behind my back with my friend...and i thought maybe it's just stupid rumors. But it turn out true. Then he cheated on me with tons of girls in his town...but i just keep clanging on to him and ended up hurting myself more...and you will feel "why do i still love him?" part if you broke up...i will tell you one thing that's true: Only time can heal you...you can't rush it, only time can define it.

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Kaaayla(L) says:
11 Oct, 2010 09:15 PM

Ohhh - holduppp. How old are you? You already had a baby with this guy, just for that reason only is what you need help with not that he's acting different or what not!

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The_Truth says:
12 Oct, 2010 01:53 AM

WAit a minute, u guys started dating in May 30, 2010....and now you already have his kid? And hes acting different? Don't you think your way in over ur head? No offense but look at it this way...ur wayyy too young to think your in love. Ok just cuz he makes u happy and makes u have the greatest feeling in the world doesnt mean its love. Its not true love. DOnt be blind because seems to me this is going to end up as a train wreck...why did i say that? BECAUSE dont u think he should no hows hes treating u and not saying anything to u is affecting you...PLUS ur having his kid? Im saying sounds like your in high school, and i been there before thinking i was in love...setting myself up for the worst. Always expect the worst so you wont be as hurt or dissappointed, cuz to me it seems like u have a lot to learn and im not saying i know everything. Find out why hes acting different but also...dont lose urself in the process. R u sure ur ready to do everything for him in such a short period of time. U said in may...right now its october, not even 6 months yet -.- .

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LOVELYN says:
12 Oct, 2010 02:53 AM

YOUR TOO YOUNG, YOUNG LADY, SO SAD TO SAY THAT, THAT NOT A TRUE LOVE,, SORRY TO OFFEND YOU, :(

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Chelei Solo says:
12 Oct, 2010 12:32 PM

@tara wicker
i would like to give an advice according to my opinion..
Call him and tell him that you have something serious to talk about. And when he arrives, make him sit down and ask him calmly whats bothering him and try to solve out his problems together and if he says there's nothing wrong then tell him directly that hes been acting strange and different and that you don't like this new behavior of his. This way would really help.
And don't worry 'cause its only natural that people change. But never give up on love cause to love, there is no age bar. ^_^. wishing you a very best Good Luck.
You can do it!

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Brandon says:
15 Oct, 2010 03:29 PM

My advice is to just straight up talk to him. That's one reason why so many relationships get so lost, and muddled. Because of the loss of communication. I suggest just sitting him down and talking to him.
If you're mature enough to have a baby, then you should be mature enough to sit him down and talk to him.
Hope it turns out well for you.

bigbweezy@yahoo.com
Just in case.

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ashley says:
18 Oct, 2010 07:04 AM

maybe u should have used condoms

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Shayla says:
20 Oct, 2010 09:45 PM

I think that you really need to talk to him. You should call him and tell him to meet you somewhere that means a lot to your relationship. Perhaps the location where you had your first kiss, then you should ask him if he remembers that place and what has happened there. Tell him that so much has changed since then. Afther that, ask him what has happened. Why isn't he talking to you. Ask him what you want to know and then go on from there.

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