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Cupid shot me with an arrow of trouble

lakia

11 Dec, 2012 09:14 PM

Its funny how on TV the image of a relationship is simple. You meet a guy/girl in freshman, fall deeply in love. The relationship carries on all through high school and college. Having special moments when you say "I love you for the first time." Going to prom together etc. And then getting married and living happy ever after.

That's not my case at all. I'll start by saying I was surrounded by a family filled with failed marriages, relationships. So at a young age I knew not to believe all the lovey dovey stuff I saw on TV. I went through my first year of High School watching girls desperately go after the senior boys, football players, anything to get there status in the role of High School a little bit higher. Me on the other hand was avoiding all the arrows cupid had thrown at me. Until I met Andre in my Freshman year of college.

It was a normal weekend I went to the mall to do a little bit of shopping. I walked in to footlocker and was astonished at the first worker I saw. He approached me with a big smile and introduced his self and asked me how could he help me. We had a normal conversation as he would have with any other customer but the last thing on my mind was shoes. Every word he said a grasp to wanting him to say more and maybe I would get more information about him. Unfortunately the conversation couldn't last forever and I purchased some shoes and left the store as Andre helped other people. I walked around the mall looking lost as I was deep in my thoughts wishing he would have asked me for my number. As I walked toward the food court I felt an touch on my back. I turned around to see Andre smiling saying he caught up with me. As we chatted we ended up exchanging numbers. After that day we started talking more and more going out hanging together and eventually started dating after a couple of months. But during the first month we started dating I had got a call at work that brought up my old thoughts about relationships. Its was a girl asking me question on how long me and Andre where together and that she saw our pics of FB and that we were cute. I knew something had to be going on, so I simply asked the girl is there anything I should know. She brought up that her and Andre had been dating for a while ( a month before I meet him). I was shocked trying to figure out how could he cheat if almost every moment we were together or texting or on the phone. at that moment I told her if she could call him on three way which she did. Andre picked up having a normal conversation Martha asked him if they could spend time together but he said he couldn't he was busy that day. We had a date that night so I guess that was the reason but anyways I spoke up "No Andre its okay you can go, she is your girlfriend." that's when he got quiet and then said" Lakia this is not ..' I hung up. I never thought I would cry over a boy and when I did I felt horrible like I was stupid for crying or falling for him like I did. He called me back to back leaving me voice mails, txt messages. I wasn't trying to hear nothing he had to say.

Why is love so wanted when its so risky? I went to work tyring to get extra hours to keep my mind off of things. One day at work I was helping customer in my line currently I was a bank teller. As I finished up with a customer and they had left I had saw that Andre was next in line. I was at work so I had to be professional and I didn't want to make a scene. I asked what could I help with and pulled up his account. He tried to tell me he was sorry but ignore it. I asked him again what could I help with. I did not make any eye contact because I could feel myself breaking down wanting to shout and yell at him. Ask him why would he do that when he knew how I felt about relationships. I look up and saw that his eyes were watery. He whispered the worst part of what he did was he was hurting me and giving me a reason not to believe in relationships. He told me not to give up on love because a stupid mistake he would regret for the rest of his life and then he walked away and told me everyday until I forgive him he would come back with a flower. And every day he did and until this day he does. Any advise on what to do? should I let it go? or give him another chance?

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Jenna Blue says:
06 Mar, 2013 08:37 AM

I think you should give him another chance. I know u much have felt soooooooo heart brocken But just cuz he was stupid at that time does'nt mean he'll do it again.i hope i helped :)

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josefina says:
06 Mar, 2013 03:09 PM

i think you should let him try agin...he seem's like he know what he did wasent the right thing

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Jackie says:
06 Mar, 2013 04:14 PM

He made a mistake, it happens! If i were u id give him another chance. it sounds like he really is sorry, and he wont do it again. hes really sweet and not giving up on u? hes really trying. if ur not sure its going to work? take a chance, thats what hes doing chasing after u! i hope it works out cuz it sounds like something thatd happen in the movies! lol u guys r perfect together! <3

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Lover says:
07 Mar, 2013 04:26 AM

You do what you want sweety! :) if you still that little magic when you too kiss, or if your heart starts to melt, or if you look I. His eyes what is he trying to say?? He seems very sweet that he really keeps (still now) buying you flowers and going into this trouble :) he's not like many guys that just give up on you :) so I say; just follow your heart :) I know that's what every one will say and it might not help but it's true will your heart ever love his? Do you go a day without thinking about him? Will you ever like someone els that his threw all the trouble just to be "frinds" again? Will any boy do this?? Ask your self and I'm sure you'll see this :)

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okojie Mabel says:
07 Mar, 2013 11:02 AM

he truly loved u,forgive him and hear him out.the fact it did nt work out wit ur sisters does nt mean u cant hv a fairy tale n let me tell you,all relationships has it up and down so be stronge n believe.

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louna says:
07 Mar, 2013 10:54 PM

god damn it girl really give him a chance !! cz if a boy was lying he won't stay after u all that time !!
in one sentence : u will be dump if u say no !!

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James says:
09 Mar, 2013 01:44 PM

Yes give him I chance

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kiki says:
11 Mar, 2013 05:54 AM

Chance!! chance!! are u back togethr??

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prasanth says:
12 Mar, 2013 08:01 PM

giving chance is nothing but encouraging him because he can meet the girls or enjoy with them bcz u know already there is no need to fear he tried to hang with another when u are in a relation on that night so u cant risk in the life bcz its not a business just checkout if it happens once again u can recover from it or not

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brenda says:
16 Mar, 2013 07:40 PM

i think you should give him another chance I mean he is trying to get u back that proves that he doses feel horrible for what he did.

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faith says:
20 Mar, 2013 07:41 PM

i think you should hear his side of the story. tell him to tell you everything and if he isnt telling the truth then i say forget it. but before you go believing some girl ask him get his side of the story.

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Dev says:
27 Mar, 2013 10:19 PM

U r his challenge now. Dnt fall 4it again. If u do, be ready for another breakdown.

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Rajat Mahanandia says:
30 Mar, 2013 09:41 AM

Love is the feelings and emotion which a girl/boy fell for someone and thinks that he/she is special and as long as these feelings are alive in you,you will keep loving that person but when you started loving him you did not made any contract with him that he shall also love you but now when he said sorry as he also felt the same emotion for you it means he also loves you and you should also give him another chance...!!!!

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tracy says:
26 Apr, 2013 02:54 PM

if u truly luv him then u should give him a chance,nd also follow ya hrt..

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Jennifer Alcocer says:
08 Nov, 2016 05:49 PM

I think you should give him another chance please give him another chance

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